He'll hold up a flower and say "look how beautiful it is," and I'll agree. Then he says "I as an artist can see how beautiful this is but you as a scientist take this all apart and it becomes a dull thing," and I think that he's kind of nutty. First of all, the beauty that he sees is available to other people and to me too, I believe. Although I may not be quite as refined aesthetically as he is
What kinds of needs do people have? Certainly, sharing a vision is an important part of leadership. People follow people they can believe in, who they trust to help them achieve their goals.
But what are those goals? What do people want from a leader? What do they need, or what do they think they need? Understanding the answers to these questions is another thread in the tapestry of effective leadership.
This understanding is also inseparable from other qualities of leadership we discuss elsewhere in this chapter. Because of the importance of this topic, this section will focus entirely on understanding what people need and want from the leader and the organization. The next few sections in this chapter will build on this knowledge, incorporating it as part of the base of a strong relationship between the leader and his or her followers.
More specifically, in this section we will look at some of the general types of needs that the leader should be aware of.
We all know what needs are--things that are necessary, that are required for some reason. If we want someone to do something for us, for example, they may say that they need something in return. A secretary might need extra cash if you want him to work overtime.
A reporter might need your word that she will be given the "inside scoop" on future goings-on if she gives you good press this week. There are also a lot of different types of needs, both for the community as a whole and for individual members, that a conscientious leader should be aware of.
These can be broken down into five general categories.
Large-scope community needs What does the community need, overall, to promote its own well-being? For example, is there a need for affordable housing? Is ending youth violence what the community needs to see happen? Do many people in the community need jobs --or better jobs?
Sometimes, understanding what a community needs is obvious to everyone. If there has been an earthquake, for example, there is an immediate need for food, water, and housing for people whose homes were affected. Root or causal needs These are the "real needs" --the underlying causes of what more obvious needs might be.
For example, if a child comes into the emergency room with whooping cough, his immediate need and that of his community is for medical attention, so he will get better and not spread the disease to others.
But the root need might be his need to be immunized. For another example, take the case of a community with a high rate of teen pregnancy.
A coalition might say that there is a need to decrease that rate. But what needs to happen for that to occur?It is about respect. People don't abuse people they respect, but they oftentimes abuse people they love.
Lack of respect is a prime contributor. “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a .
While’s it’s always good to be honest with those you interact with, finishing this phrase with “but I’ll find out” is a surefire way to become more successful. Successful people know. Those who would be grouped mostly towards the Type A side of the spectrum are those that are more driven, more focused, more goal-oriented, more diligent, more likely to get stressed and emotional.
Sometimes people have been shitty to them and, even though they don't realize it, they take that shitty upbringing and go out into the world and treat others the same .
Incredibly obvious stuff that most sensible people understand; even if they haven’t always mastered it.
Things like be nice, be considerate, etc. Bizarre and complex theories that may explain some behavior, but is difficult to generalize.